Brain tumours are so dumb.
He sits there, burrowed into my mind, plotting my downfall. Months go by, during which my son is born (hurrah!) and I lose my job (boo!). I get through four rounds of chemo pretty much unscathed, besides a bit of tiredness.
About three months ago, I started to lose my sense of direction. Big crowds, especially those in places I’ve not been to before, begin to intimidate me. Nevertheless, I negotiate the Rolling Stones live in a big venue; I walk about two miles a day with the dog. I go to London purely for the honour of being made redundant in person, during which HR ask me ‘how little I could survive on’ by way of an opening gambit. Charmers to the last.
Then last week, stuff started to shift on me - my anti-seizure meds are up a bit, and holding, but I’m not as sprightly as I was. Walking to our local shop, once a nonchalant trot of about 10 minutes, now feels like an expedition that needs to be considered before it’s completed. But I am still, broadly speaking, OK. My research has also proven that wine is an effective deterrent to most ills.
We saw the mighty Jenner clan last week, which was and will always be a joy. Hope, were it a candle, would flicker at the slightest breeze, having brought from the dark by friends and family, and those I need. Some mornings I feel like I will be dust at Christmas; until recently, others made me forget anything is happening. But now, all mornings carry a reminder that I am finite, and that below the waterline, the ship is, slowly, sinking.
But I am not sunk yet. When I had my op in January I worried that I wouldn’t be able to play shit bass guitar again. I was right. Slowly though, I have been able to pick up the pieces and play. Initially, playing itself made me dizzy; too much coordination needed, too many inputs, too much data requiring processing. But today, 303 days after my op, I played as well as ever, nice and loud, for 90 minutes.
This is significant, because if I could have my time again, I would throw myself into learning and playing music more vociferously than i did this time round. Listen to Miles Davis, or Coltrane, or The Roses, or Metallica, or any decent musicians, and what you can hear is the result of someone wanting to make noises that are great fun, or emotional shorthand for something else, with and for their best friends.
Being in the same room as a bunch of people intent on creating something with you that wasn’t there seconds ago, and if you stopped, would cease to exist altogether, is actual fucking magic. It is a glimpse of the inner workings of the mind. It is the higher state - pure creativity, emotion, clarity, faculty and freedom. It is as close to telepathy as you can get with your clothes on.
Music has power. It started a civil war in Yugoslavia, and helped to end the war in Europe. It can evoke untold suffering and limitless joy. It is the only thing that can stop a room in its tracks. Humans are driven by it, inspired by it, die for it, are, sometimes, even made thanks to the atmosphere it can generate.
So, to know that I can still command my fingers to hold my bass in such a way as to make a sound I recognise as music, when I was warned that my treatment might - perhaps should - have taken that away by now, is good to know. The reason I started this by saying that brain tumours are dumb? Mine stopped me playing for a year, right? I couldn’t play stood up, like I have since I was 17. In a revolutionary moment, I sat down, giving my brain a rest, as it didn’t have to deal with balance issues that have been increasing for a year or more. With all those issues stowed, I could play, properly, again.
All I can say is, sometimes it’s best to sit on your arse.
‘The worst tragedy that could ever happen to anyone, in my opinion, is that when they die, they never sang the song that was inside of them. They were never able to give their greatest gift away.”
“But the beautiful opposite of that is that if you pass away and you know that you’ve sung your song - that you gave your gift - that’s the greatest accomplishment I could ever hope for anybody.’ - Flea
